A Gurmukh pyari-o said 'by thinking wrong thoughts people make themselves ill, they make themselves depressed with their negativity'.
In one respect, there is little difference between a Gurmukh and a ManMukh. Both are attacked by the 5 enemies, both have suffered traumatic situations, both recall happy times and sad times in their minds.
The difference is the way they deal with the attack. The ManMukh, the untrained warrior, has no idea that the thought that has come into their mind is an enemy. They grab hold of it, think about it and jumping into the carriage they ride the Train of Thought to its bitter end.
My friend at Uni loved listening to depressing songs, he said it made it feel sad and he liked that!!!
Mention money and relatives and un-returned loans, and this other person I know will jump on the train of thought and ride all the way to the point where they are as mad as hell at the injustice of it all!.
Another person says some people live their life, but i am enduring it. I guess cause of my sins I was born to suffer...all I think about is running away, running away, running away is the only words in my mind day and night. One bad thought comes along and these people jump onto it and ride it to the bitter end, depressing the hell out of themselves.
So how does the Gurmukh deal with it? Firstly,
the Gurmukh has ridden this train many times in the past. BUT
HE KNOWS WHERE IT ENDS UP SO HE DOESN'T RIDE IT AGAIN. As soon
as the negative thought comes he doesn't cling on to it, he watches
it ... calls out its name ... YOU'RE ANGER ... yes I've seen you
before... you can go because i haven't got time for you ... only
time for Waheguru Waheguru.
The Gurmukh has had bad experiences and when something triggers off the memory, she doesn't wallow in it like a pig rolling in the mud, she puts her foot down and says 'I REFUSE TO FOLLOW THIS TRAIN OF THOUGHT' and she does Waheguru Waheguru.
Ultimately, each little battle that is won leads to winning the war, these thoughts don't come back very often..they know they've got no chance..plus there's no room for them because Waheguru Waheguru occupies the mind.
No-one else can fight your internal battles, no matter how hard the time you are going through is... ONLY YOU AND GURU CAN FIGHT IT... but you have to FIGHT. Your hard time is not worse than Guru Arjun Dev ji sitting on the hot plate, and he said 'Your Will is Sweet, I beg for your Name'... so don't lose faith in God for giving you Dukh. You are drowning in the ocean of fire: Desire, and only by holding onto SatGuru ji will you escape... Naam is your Support, without it you will drown.