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| PAUSE FOR THOUGHT by Gopinder Kaur | ||
| Broadcast on BBC Radio 2 in 5 parts from 15 April - 19 April 2002 | ||
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SPIRITUAL DETOX Since
the new year, I've kept seeing and hearing that five-lettered buzz word -
DETOX. All that media hype
even gave me a little push to go buy a juicer, lay off the wheat and
dairy, and fill my fridge with broccoli.
Although I tend to be wary of fashionable crazes, there's a lot of
sound sense in the call to detox. It's
about learning to free your mind and body from an accumulation of bad
habits which have bogged them down. Once you've broken through the initial
hurdles, old temptations start to lose their grip and you can learn to
relax and enjoy new tastes. By getting into the swing of a healthy regime, we begin
feeling rejuvenated and somehow liberated, each at our own pace.
The
whole detox wave also made me think of my Sikh background.
As far as consumption goes, Sikhism encourages a smoking-free,
alcohol-free and meat-free lifestyle, and cleanliness is emphasised in all
preparation of food. Although many Sikhs debate the issue of total
vegetarianism and might also drink, there’s usually unanimous recoil
when it comes to smoking. Devout
Sikhs or those who have taken Amrit - a ceremony in which they pledge to
live a disciplined lifestyle - they certainly will be particular about
what they consume - they’ll have vowed not to smoke or drink, and will
often be vegetarian. It's
easy to read these as just rules, but it's an approach which becomes
naturally part of a lifestyle. Stomachs
aside, Sikhism proscribes what can be described as a mental and spiritual
detox. The human condition is
seen as subject to five instincts - lust, anger, greed, attachment and
selfishness. We need these
for survival, but we can also end up consumed in their grip.
By practising meditation and prayer, directing our energies
outwardly to help others, and interacting with people who will expand our
spirits, we can unravel and unlearn negative drives and transform our
minds through a steady and spontaneous process.
For this, we must also have the ability to 'let go' and not keep
our eyes forever fixed to the steering wheel: Sikhism teaches that the
real fruits of our efforts come when we lose our self-centredness and
become open to the grace of God. Sometimes,
it’s easy to cringe at religious discipline.
After all, it seems pointless if you only end up preoccupied with
resisting temptation. But
with the right outlook and balance, a personal regime can lead to a very
fulfilling and creative type of freedom.
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THE SIGNIFICANCE OF VAISAKHI This
week, it’s Vaisakhi, a spring festival for anyone who comes from the
Punjab, the land of five rivers which falls on either side of the
India-Pakistan border. Each
year in Britain, Vaisakhi comes hand in hand with Easter time and the
coming of Spring. Back in the Punjab, it’s a reason for much joviality &
celebration. For
Sikhs, whose faith originated in the Punjab, Vaisakhi has a very special
religious significance: it marks the creation of the Khalsa in 1699.
Sikhism had begun over two centuries before, evolving through the
lives of 10 Sikh Gurus, starting with Guru Nanak Dev Ji. This allowed Sikh teaching to stand the test of time &
respond to changes and challenges in the social climate.
Guru
Gobind Singh Ji, the tenth Guru, eventually formalised the Sikh way of
life by establishing the Khalsa order in a ceremony of initiation.
This was done through the giving of Amrit, or holy water, which
embodied the balanced qualities of the Khalsa personality: it was prepared
in a steel bowl & stirred with a double-edged sword, conveying
strength & resilience; it was sweetened by the Guru’s wife with
sugar crystals, infusing it with kindness and compassion; it also absorbed
the powerful chanting of prayers to bring it sacredness & sanctity. The first to take Amrit were Five Beloved Ones, who had stood
a rigorous test of love and loyalty.
Then, incredibly, the supreme Guru himself bowed before his five
disciples, entreating them to bless him too with Amrit. This
was a momentous event in Sikh and Punjabi history.
After many generations of the Gurus' nurture and guidance, the
Khalsa was the pinnacle of their vision of an ideal person; after much
patient chiselling and crafting, this felt like the timely unveiling of a
masterpiece. Politically,
there was much oppression in the Punjab, and the Khalsa became a force to
be reckoned with, saint-soldiers dedicated to upholding humanitarian
causes when all peaceful means had failed, ethical, fearless but
compassionate in their conduct. Growing
up in Britain, the Vaisakhi story always reminded me of the nobility &
valour associated with mythic figures like Hercules.
But the Khalsa is part of recent history, just over 300 years ago,
& for Sikhs to this day, it provides a dynamic source of inspiration,
reminding us of values we must all cherish amidst the challenges of
everyday life.
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WHAT’S IN A NAME? What’s
in a name? As a child I
remember being fascinated by those Native American names that conjured up
qualities from the natural world, like Sitting Bull and Little Turtle.
It seemed the keeper of such a name would embody that quality,
acquire self-esteem from it & respect from others.
Also that very quality, encapsulated in a name, somehow became
venerated and treasured. Perhaps
it was easy for me to feel captivated by another, almost by-gone, culture
like this, which had become the stuff of glossy films & Hollywood
fantasy. But all of us, I
suppose, can find inspiration from our name-giving traditions.
It’s just that these days, names have lost their original depth
& dimension, and become our nice-sounding labels. Being
a Sikh, I'm conscious that names distinguish us as a community: the name
Singh identifies Sikh men and Kaur, K-A-U-R, Sikh women.
Both are used either as a middle name or surname and originate from
words associated with royalty, which denote a princely status.
These names were first formally given to Sikhs when the tenth Guru
created the Khalsa order in 1699, during the annual festival of Vaisakhi
which we celebrate this week. They are seen as a gift from him and carry an almost epic
quality. When you understand
that the time was one of severe oppression and the denial of basic rights,
Sikh names affirmed that human life is precious and worthy of dignity.
For Sikhs, sovereignty also means that true rule must be founded on
compassion for people, and the courage to uphold just values.
This was also a reason for Sikhs to wear a princely turban and
carry a small sword or kirpan, a reminder that humanity must be cherished. Singh
and Kaur are also a way to distinguish gender because Sikh first names are
unisex; they’re taken from scripture & reflect an aspect of the
Divine: Jagdeep is ‘light of the world’; Amrit is ‘sacred nectar’,
Balvir is ‘Brave Hero’, Dayal is ‘Compassionate One’ and Satnam is
‘True Name’. Sikhs also
believe that Naam, or the Divine Name, embodies the essence of God’s
being. By meditating on this, and giving praise to God’s infinite
attributes, we can connect with Him and elevate our own beings.
In the Sikh tradition then, the names we give and use are
subconscious tools for us to deepen and broaden the mind, and to live in
an inspired way. 4
EMBLEMS OF THE SIKH NATION In
the past year, I moved from West London to the West Midlands. Both regions
have a sizeable Sikh community, so the new surroundings feel a bit like a
home from home; not only is the sight of a turbaned Sikh an everyday
occurrence, but there are a good number of Sikh temples, or gurdwaras.
I recognise them from the saffron flag or Nishan
Sahib which is hoisted in front, featuring the Sikh emblem called the khanda.
I’ve also begun to notice that it’s easy to identify a
Sikh-owned car, from a small version of the Sikh flag dangling under the
rear-view mirror! As
with all social groups, emblems can come to function merely as badges of
identity, both for those who display them & for those who look at
them. But symbols can also
have a powerful influence on the psyche and tell us something of the
deepest points of focus for a community.
Every Easter, we remembered Christ’s suffering &
resurrection, and with this in mind, an image of the cross speaks volumes. Sikhs
are now celebrating Vaisakhi and remembering the time when the Sikh way of
life was formalised through the creation of the Khalsa in 1699.
It will be marked with religious services, cultural events and
colourful street processions, now in a number of British cities, like
London & Birmingham, my two home towns.
During
one Vaisakhi celebration, I remember being particularly struck at the
symbolism behind the shape and colour of the khanda,
which was in abundance everywhere. Firstly,
the dominance of the colour orange, which we call kesari, from the word for saffron.
I was dazzled by the energy and vibrancy of this colour; it seemed
so apt for Sikhs who promote an outlook of faith and optimism against all
the odds. Blue, another
favourite Sikh colour, balances this with its coolness and sense of
contemplation. I
was also struck by the Sikh symbol of the khanda
itself. A central circle
represents the infinity, Oneness & grace of God.
A vertical double-edged sword upholds a sense of justice, freedom
and responsibility. It’s
flanked by two crescent-shaped swords, a reminder to be dynamic and
empowered- one in earthly life & two in spiritual life - so we don't
just dismiss the here-and-now for the here-after.
The khanda reminds Sikhs to live responsibly and maintain a resilience
of the mind, whilst also humbling themselves to the power & grace of
God. This Vaisakhi, whether
we are Sikhs celebrating or just interested on-lookers, I hope we can see
beyond badges and recognise the khanda for its worthiness and inspiration.
5
SIKHS MARKING DEATH OF A LOVED ONE We
have all been touched in some way by the death of the Queen Mother. Her
presence over the last century was like a quiet and gracious oak tree,
standing splendidly in an ever-changing garden.
I used to think the same about my grandfather, who also died having
lived an estimated century, and whose funeral was a tribute to a life that
had come full circle. In
the early 1900s, Kehar Singh Panesar, then a young Sikh teenager, had
travelled by ship from the Punjab to British East Africa, where he joined
an influx of new workers on the railways.
In the late 60s, like many other East African Asians of British
Nationality, he came with his family to the UK, settling in West London.
I have a memory as a little girl, watching him take English
lessons, and wondering if some day I’d also have to learn English, as if
this was just a symptom of growing old.
I remember Bhaiya Ji, as we called him, for his laid-back
benevolence, for his occasional dash of a short temper, and for the great
importance he placed on respect for others, irrespective of their
background, with many stories from the past to demonstrate this. His
funeral was attended by friends and a large extended family, right down to
the youngest of his great grandchildren.
Us youngsters were told not to wear white, which is traditional for
Sikh funerals, but to dress in a colour, because when someone dies at such
a grand old age, it’s a life worth celebrating and we must give thanks
to God. I’ve attended a
good many other Sikh funerals, and even if someone has died prematurely,
there is an overriding sense of acceptance and mutual support, with
displays of grief being muted and restrained.
Instead, emotions and thoughts are channelled through the
collective singing of hymns from Sikh scripture, which praise the
completeness of God and remind us of the impermanence of this existence.
They also speak of death as a reason for each of us to reflect
inwardly at our own lives and what we are making of them.
For me, there’s one strong image that shines through such verses:
Remember that life is like a priceless jewel; it’s so easy to trade it
away for worthless pennies. It
seems so natural to see the Queen Mother’s long life as a jewel,
dignified, regal and radiant. It’s an obvious metaphor for royalty; for
Sikhs it’s been a spur for them to seek inward self-esteem and maintain
outward respect for others, and to see everyone’s life as a precious
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